The Babe With The Power- 9 Ways to Keep Your Personal Impact

Sometimes I have to remember to "Create the Day I Desire", a mantra that serves as a gentle nudge towards mindfulness and intentional living. There are always flowers for those who want to see them.

1. Have the courage to be different.

   Self-doubt and fear might make you want to conform to those around you. However, attempting to fit in will only mask your true self. Believe in your mental strength to stand out and embrace being unique.

2. Embrace forgiveness.

   Harboring resentment towards someone who has harmed you doesn't affect them—it only affects you. Spending precious time dwelling on someone you believe wronged you detracts from your ability to live in the present.

   Forgiving is the most effective way to reclaim your power. However, it's important to understand that forgiveness doesn't mean excusing the person's actions. It's about deciding to release the pain and anger that hinders your enjoyment of life.

3. Take ownership of your emotions.

   Avoid allowing others' actions to control your feelings. If you say your mother-in-law makes you feel inferior, or your boss angers you, it implies they have control over your emotions. Instead, recognize that it is your responsibility to handle your emotions, no matter how others act.

4. Refrain from using your energy on complaints.

   Complaining and solving problems are vastly different. Expressing frustrations to friends, family, and colleagues keeps your attention on the problem rather than finding a solution. Complaining suggests a lack of control over your circumstances and also indicates a lack of control over your mindset.

5. Avoid dwelling on unproductive thoughts.

   Have you ever returned home from work and spent the whole evening wishing you didn't have to return the next day? Suddenly, your eight-hour workday is consuming 12 hours of your time. Manage the thoughts that fill your mind, so you don't devote more mental energy to parts of your life that aren't worth it.

6. Steer clear of language that suggests victimhood.

   Ultimately, embracing the understanding that you have choices empowers you to take control of your life. It encourages a proactive approach to problem-solving and decision-making, allowing you to navigate challenges with a sense of agency. By shifting your perspective from that of a victim to one of an active participant in your life, you open the door to new opportunities and paths that may have previously seemed unattainable. This shift not only enhances your personal growth but also fosters a greater sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in your daily life.

7. Understand your values.

   If you're unsure about your values, you might end up as a passive follower instead of confidently steering your own life. This uncertainty can lead to adopting others' ideas and being easily misled. Reclaim your power by recognizing your values and staying true to what matters to you.

8. Ensure your self-worth is not reliant on others' opinions.

   If your sense of self-worth is based on others' approval, you might end up trying to please everyone. It's not necessary for everyone to like you or agree with your way of living. Consider the value of the criticism you receive, but never let a single person's opinion define your self-worth.

9. Set healthy boundaries.

   Allowing guilt trips or not advocating for yourself empowers others. Instead of blaming them for taking up your time or "making" you do something, acknowledge that you are responsible for yourself. Create healthy physical and emotional boundaries that allow you to manage your time and choose the people you spend it with.

Owning your power means completely understanding, accepting, and embracing your natural talents, strengths, and value. It involves being accountable for your actions, choices, and life situations, while also recognizing your ability to bring about positive change. By owning your power, you cease to doubt your potential and instead embrace your true self with confidence, clarity, and determination. It's about aligning your inner self with your outward actions and expressing your full potential without fear or hesitation.